“The era of the 100-Year Life” is now becoming a common phrase, especially in Japan, but how many centenarians actually live in the country? The answer is 95,119 as of September 17, 2024*, more than a 620-fold increase in just over 60 years (153 centenarians in 1963). It means that Japanese centenarians can fill two major baseball stadiums.
The other day, I received an invitation to a movie preview. Drawn by the charming smile of the woman printed on the postcard, I decided to go see it. The movie “104 Years Old, Tetsuyo Lives Alone” is a documentary film about Ms. Tetsuyo Ishii. As some of you may know, she has been featured in newspapers and TV programs as a model centenarian; she has even published several books. It’s embarrassing to confess, but I knew nothing about her, so everything I saw in the movie was new to me.
Tetsuyo’s house is in a mountainous
area surrounded by nature in Onomichi City, Hiroshima. The movie begins with
Tetsuyo slowly walking backwards、step by step, down a slope from her house.
“She worked as an elementary school
teacher; after the retirement, she dedicated herself to the community as a
welfare commissioner. She has lived alone since age 83, when her husband passed
away, helping and laughing together with her niece and neighbors.” The flier
introduces the movie like this, but naturally, Tetsuyo’s life has been much
more than that.
Tetsuyo is filled with cheer
throughout the movie, always smiling and thanking. When asked why she is like
that, her answer is: “Oh, well… otherwise, I can’t keep going. Complaining would
do no good even when I had to deal with hardship. If I can’t solve the problem,
I might as well think positively. Some people may think I’m stupid or
something, always smiling despite being miserable. But I can’t help it because
feeling down would get me nowhere,” as she sits on a levee at a harbor looking
out to the sea.
Tetsuyo must have gone through so
many hardships and tragedies in these 104 years. As the movie went on, I
gradually realized that her cheerfulness has come from the experience of
overcoming all these challenges.
Tetsuyo became an elementary school
teacher in 1941, at age 20, being in charge of first graders. In the very same
year, the Pacific War started with the attack on Pearl Harbor. When she arrived
at the school in the morning, the vice principle hurriedly announced from the
podium: “Attention, everyone! It’s awful, the war has started.” According to
Tetsuyo, she kept teaching during the war, determined to end it soon and never
to make any of these children go to battlefields. In the movie, Tetsuyo attends
a reunion of the school, where over 10 former students gather and welcome her
in the school yard. After a few minutes of embracing each other with happy
tears, they soon start laughing hard.
“Teacher! It’s me, XX,.” “Oh, you’ve
grown up,” “Sure, I’m 88!” “Oh my!!”
“Teacher! I’m YY!” “Hmm, I don’t
remember,” “How about me? I’m ZZ,” “Can’t tell.”
She has good reason not to remember
their faces: They have changed so much since the last time she saw them over 80
years ago.
The reunion, which takes place in the
classroom, starts with a moment of silence for the students who have passed
away. Then, Tetsuyo takes attendance with a clear voice. As the event goes on,
Tetsuyo gradually traces old memories and shares them with the students: “You
used to wet yourself all the time. I remember you washing the underwear. Boys
were always the ones to wet themselves.”
At age 26, Tetsuyo married her
colleague Yoshihide and moved to the current house in Onomichi. Despite being
the wife of the oldest son, she was not blessed with children.. She still
regrets it to this day and apologizes to her ancestors in her diary, “I’m
sorry, I’m sorry….” You can feel her pain just by looking at these letters.
Being childless in the time with the slogan “Be fruitful and multiply,” she
must have felt ashamed and humiliated beyond our imagination. But still Tetsuyo
has maintained the family grave by herself for over 20 years since her husband
passed away. Whenever she goes out, she would bend over and pull weed one by
one, endlessly, thinking that she must keep the land clean as the ancestors
left it for her. Even when she is hospitalized, she dedicates herself to
rehabilitation with strong determination to go home, and she indeed comes home.
Tetsuyo can do fewer things as she
ages from 102, 103, to 104, but she never gives up living at her own home. She
does receive support from her niece in the neighborhood, uses home care
services, and stays at a care facility for a while when not feeling well. While
using these resources, she still values living at home at her own pace. People
around her also understand and respect her choice.
The niece lives right in front of her.
When Tetsuyo is hospitalized, the niece would open the windows of her aunt’s
house to let fresh air in, firmly believing that the aunt will come home. Some
neighbors have said why not live together. But according to the niece, if they
did, Tetsuyo would pay attention to her needs, and she would be mindful of her
aunt, and it would go on and on, and they wouldn’t be able to totally relax.
The distance they have now is just about right.
Tetsuyo also says she lives by
herself but she is not alone, always expressing her appreciation to people: “I
can keep living thanks to everyone’s help. I’m so grateful.”
In the scene where her relatives get
together, one of them says “I don’t want to live to 100 because I’m scared of
having dementia.” Another one then starts saying, “I’m scared of dementia too.
I don’t want to be a burden on others.” Tetsuyo laughs them off by saying, “You
may say so, but I was 100 before I knew it. You will be 100 too while taking a nap.”
Worrying would do no good, so live in the moment: I think that’s what she
meant.
She may no longer be able to clean or
organize her house too well; no problem. She may forget an appointment; so
what? Her miso paste may get a little moldy; she doesn’t care. Her kitchen
knife may look black with rust; it’s the proof of aging just like herself.
Using a gas stove is dangerous? Replace it with the electric one. Isn’t she
supposed to throw away the dried sardines after making broth? No, she eats them
all because they’re good protein sources. She can’t move as fast because her
legs hurt; instead of complaining, she would compliment her legs saying, “Thanks
for your hard work for over 100 years.”
I’ve been easygoing like this all my
life, for over 100 years. Life has allowed me to do so many things, like
chatting with friends and picking flowers. It’s nice to be 100 years old
enjoying beautiful and pleasant days. I’m grateful for my life. Don’t ever use
the past tense. Let’s keep using “ing.”
Tetsuyo keeps going with a smile,
gracefully riding her scooter and greeting her neighbors.
If you have a chance, please go see
her at a movie theater.
Written by Mamiko Kashima
To be released in
April 2025 across Japan (e.g., Cine Switch Ginza)
Inquiries: yurisan@eurus.dti.ne.jp; Phone:
090-3335-9582
Narrator: Lily
Franky; Director/editor: Kazuhiro Yamamoto
Instagram (in
English): https://www.instagram.com/104_hitori/p/DEhSeWjTLiS/
X (in English): https://x.com/104_hitori/status/1876566926400672113
* A press release
by the Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare (in Japanese):
https://www.mhlw.go.jp/content/12304250/001306744.pdf
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